Wednesday, August 28, 2013

Post-hysterectomy intimacy

Warning:  As the title suggest, there will be talk of intimate issues!

One thing the testosterone has done for me is increased my libido. A LOT.  To the point that LAST Thursday, (5 weeks 1 day post op) I called my doctor’s office and talked to the surgical nurse to see if  we could get the all clear to have sex. I really didn’t want to wait for another week.  She told me to “Go for it!” Since my surgery was abdominal and there was no vaginal cuff to worry about, there was no physical reason for me to wait if I wanted to try now.  And she was thrilled that *I* was the one initiating this.  In fact, the husband had no idea that I had called and asked.  We hadn’t even discussed it.  But I have been thinking about it SO MUCH I figured it couldn’t hurt to ask. I decided not to tell him until I got the answer because I didn’t want to get his ummm… hopes up. 

When I told him, the look on his face alone made the call worth it.  You’d have thought he’d found a Red Ryder BB gun under the Christmas tree. 

So, Friday morning, after the girls all left the house, we went for a test drive.  Obviously we took everything VERY slowly. I did notice some discomfort. Not quite sure what it was from. Something we will be bringing up with the doctor. It wasn’t a deal breaker. And for the most part…all systems were go! And quite frankly, the body is almost hyper sensitive. 

Something we have noticed that REALLY shocked us, after years of almost always needing KY…dryness is no longer an issue! WTH??  NOT what we expected!  Not what I had been told to expect!

UNFORTUNATELY, even though we were being VERY careful and gentle, the minor variation of a relatively vanilla position caused serious pain afterwards. This was from the stent trauma. All my pain was on the left side of my abdomen, where the stent had been located. I had not even take that into consideration. Never occurred to me this would be a problem. 

Sadly, it left me in a fair amount of pain for the rest of the day. I had to take multiple pain pills throughout, just to bring it down to a tolerable level.  The pain FINALLY stopped after 1:00am when I took 2 ibuprofen.  I needed the anti-inflammatory more than I needed the Rx pills. Felt really stupid for not realizing that sooner.

I am doing much better now.  And quite frankly, anxious to get back at it.  However, we decided to wait until after the 6 week follow up before we tried again.  Luckily, I guess, the husband has been out of town on travel, so I haven’t had to deal with the temptation.  And thankfully, tomorrow is the doctor’s appointment, the husband will be home and the house will be empty.  I am predicting better results this time.  At least I sure hope so. 

**Update: Doctor's visit went great.  Round two when we got home. Made sure to be cautious not to aggravate ureter site. Everything went great. Feeling so very positive about this.   


  1. I am so happy for you! This feels really weird to comment on, but I am!

    1. LOL! Don't feel weird. You know me and the issues I have had with sex. Feeling happy for me is cool! Thank you. :)

  2. Since my hysterectomy I have absolutely NO libido. Thinking I should see my doctor about that. Going from acting like a rabbit, to nothing has been confusing, not to mention my husband, who is 15 years my junior, is really suffering. Tell me more about this testosterone?