It can make or break your day. (which is totally oversimplifying it)
How do we know when we should help our adult kids out of a
rough patch and when we need to let them make their own mistakes and possibly
fall…hard?
Knowing you raised your kids to know right from wrong, good
from bad is NO guarantee that they will make good choices. And let me just say, that it is hard as hell
to just “trust that they will be OK because you were a good parent.” I've known too many good parents whose children have become addicts. (drugs and alcohol) It is NOT as simple as being a good parent. (but it's a start, I know)
Parenting ain’t for the weak of heart, that’s for damn
sure. I love my kids and I am proud of
all of them. But they aren’t perfect. They are human. They have made and will continue to make
mistakes. Just like I have. Just like their dad has. I can only hope
those mistakes don’t cost them their educations or their jobs. That they are
not the sort of mistakes that could land them in jail or take their lives.
I’d always thought parenting would get easier as the kids got
older. It hasn’t. The things you worry about just change.
It gets harder as they get older. As an infant, their needs are obvious and easy to address. As adults their needs are not obvious and not easy to address.
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